Ironically speaking

Life starts with us all yearning for perfection but as years go by and the reality of things set in, we start to desire the normalty of our earlier years. If the eventuality has been decided already, what is the point of our existence then?
Two sepeate individuals with similar desires and character components, try to achieve similar goals and go about it in similar ways but end up with different outcomes, how? Am still trying to figure out how what doesn't kill you make you stronger, logically i think it will leave you paralysed or terribly scarred. There is no authority on the subject of love so how do we know who's acting right? We keep feigning perfection, we are quick to judge others and we seem to know a better way to have succeeded where others failed, yet as a society we campaign against hypocrisy.
Recent years have witnessed a change in trend from 'dos and donts' to 'haves and have nots', from 'what do you' to 'what's in it for me', etc. Everybody is trying to help me be a better person when in actual fact, they should use my life as a model for healthy existential living standards. They rebuke certain behaviors i portray but the alarming truth is i picked up these behaviors from them.
Growing up has become so intense that family times have diminished. Somewhere down the line, we start to wonder how we grew to be apart.
Relationships that require great efforts to build mutate into marriages and then require great efforts to break up again. Is it possible for anyone to love me more than i love myself? is it possible to love 2 equally? is it possible to love one and be attracted to another? is there more to life than what the eyes can see? a life without these ironies would be like a life without arts