People that know me in person and can connect me with the blog responded to a previous post, 'A guide to healthy dating in the 21st century' with a series of questions. some of these questions reflected the frustrations of people, especially women, at giving their all and discovering that their all have not been adequate enough to sustain their relationships. A particular lady actually asked me, 'how do i identify the right man'? After thinking over the question for a while, i arrived at the conclusion that there are no right men out there, rather there are DO-RIGHT men.
It is the empathy i have of the female society's plights that led to me picking this subject for my next blog article. The other reason for writing this article is to redeem myself a bit, for all the beautiful hearts i broke at some point in my dating experience.
After much thought and research, i compiled these 5 markers that would help a lady identify a 'do-right' man. Per adventure there's one in your life who you've been taking for granted, WAKE UP!!!
1) He loves his mother: The first female in any male's life is his mother. This is who he gets the love and cares from in the initial stage of his life. How he treats her in return goes a long way in telling how he would treat every other female that comes into his life. why? if he treats a woman that breast fed him and nurtured him to manhood with disdain, what are the chances that he'll treat a relative stranger with no blood ties to him any better?
2) He has women friends: Friendship emanates from a mutual feeling of respect and appreciation. A man that has women friends, proves that he is not shallow to regard women, with the exception of his sisters and mother as potential targets for intercourse. Besides, the fact that any woman can regard such a man as her friend reflects a considerable amount of positive character component he possesses. Amongst which is reliability, as this is a major criterion for women when picking their friend(s)
3) His male friends are a great bunch of guys: As the saying goes, 'bad company corrupt good manners'. A guy with a bunch of jerks as friends is bound to start manifesting jerky tendencies at some point. On the other hand, a man with a bunch of refined gentlemen as friends can only be influenced positively by them.
4) He cooks and cleans: Gone is the era when women are regarded as personnel for domestic chores. A man with this archaic mind state sure wouldn't be able to undertake any of this domestic chores and as such would depend on the female to get them done. for a man to be able to cook and clean is indicative of his progressive liberal mind and ultimately shows his willingness to help out his partner. Such a man would have regards and appreciation for the role dominated by the female.
5) He is a gentleman: A gentleman is a man with refined social skills. This traits reflect in every facet of his existence and coexistence with others and the female in particular. He willingly accepts the role assigned him by society, which is to help and protect the female. Such a man will never abuse a woman verbally or otherwise and as such makes for an ideal partner as her safety is guaranteed in his company.
These markers are an indication of a do-right man. if you know some one with 3 or more of these character traits, hold on to him ladies!!! Good luck in your quest y'all, lol.
